The Shield
The Shield builds you. The areas of your life that make you strong enough to maintain yourself while dating.
Cami Boudreaux
Fix your picker.
Trust yourself to choose healthy, compatible partners.
You don’t want another relationship. You want yourself back.
“Camille has done the deep work on herself, and it shows. The people she works with genuinely love her, like I do.”
Is this you?
Just got out of a
relationship with
another
unavailable
guy and
wondering
if it’s you?
You’re not bad at relationships. Your picker may have learned to read inconsistency, uncertainty and intensity as chemistry.
- You tried. You thought you could make it work if you just tried harder — until you ran out of energy and it all fell apart.
- At some point you stop asking whether he’s right for you. You just don’t want to be alone or unchosen.
- You get breadcrumbs, wait for him to change, explain his problems, help him, manage him.
- You can be successful in one area of life and still have gaps that make the relationship feel like everything.
- You’re the people pleaser, the empath, the over-giver — the one who makes everyone else comfortable, and keeps picking men who can’t do the same for you.
Are you dating a partner or managing a project?
What I help with
- Self-trust
- Comfort saying no
- Comfort being alone
- A full life outside romance
- Seeing incompatibility earlier
- Leaving without needing to make someone a villain
- Relationships that add to your life instead of draining it
These are the goals of our work together — not testimonials or promised results.
The method
Stop auditioning Start evaluating
Knowing your pattern isn’t the same as changing it. This work gives you tools to choose, protect yourself, and act on what you already know.
The Sword
The Sword is you acting like yourself. Saying yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. Choosing instead of performing.
The Picker
The Picker chooses from that self. The part of you that evaluates, chooses, rejects, attaches, stays, leaves, and decides what kind of relationship you’re willing to participate in.
The Picker spectrum
- Non-functional
“Who wants me?”
- Low-functioning
“I know… but maybe he’ll change.”
- High-functioning
“Who do I want?”
Why this is different
What makes this work different.
A real method, not pep talks.
The Picker, Shield + Sword method gives you a clear way to see your pattern, and the tools to change it.
Built for successful women.
For women who have so much of life handled, and want their love life to match.
Support between sessions.
Email and messaging support between calls, plus Unshakable Self-Trust, your private audio program.
It doesn’t end at day 90.
A check-in call two weeks after we finish, with ongoing check-ins to stay connected long term.
Certified, and I’ve lived it.
Certified through Transformation Academy, and someone who’s lived this pattern from the inside.
Work with me
A 90-day 1:1 intensive.
What this is
Private 1:1 relationship coaching, built on the Picker, Shield + Sword method.
What you get
- Weekly 1:1 calls. Steady weekly momentum, so insight turns into action instead of fading after one good conversation.
- Email and messaging support between calls. Help in the moment. When something happens between calls, you don’t have to wait a week to know your next move.
- An in-depth intake. We start with your real patterns, not a generic program, so every session is about your life.
- The Picker self-assessment. See exactly where your picker is today, so you know what to work on first.
- The Make Your Shield worksheet. A clear map of the five areas that keep you steady while you date.
- Unshakable Self-Trust, a private audio program of 15 tracks. Short guided tracks to rebuild self-trust between sessions: on a walk, in the car, with your morning coffee.
- Personalized visualizations and future-mapping. A vivid picture of the life and relationship you’re choosing, so you recognize the right fit, and the wrong one, faster.
- A check-in call two weeks after we finish, plus ongoing check-ins. You’re not dropped on day 90. We stay connected so the changes hold.
Who it’s for
Intelligent, self-aware women who are successful in many areas of life, and keep choosing partners who can’t meet them there. Single or dating, roughly 25–40.
About
Hi, I’m Cami.
Why do we keep choosing who we choose?
I struggled through much of my twenties to find an equal, secure, solid partner. I oscillated between men who didn’t have marriage in their vocabulary and men who came on too hard, too soon.
As a people pleaser and an empath, I over-gave. If he wasn’t okay, I wasn’t okay.
They were picking me strongly. I wasn’t evaluating them strongly.
I help you see the ceilings you can’t see on your own.
Certified through Transformation Academy — and someone who’s lived this pattern from the inside.
“Camille opened me up to parts of myself I’d never thought about before. I felt comfortable exploring them with her right away, and you can really feel her compassion and passion for what she does.”
FAQ
Questions, answered.
How much does the 90-day intensive cost?
Pricing is shared on your free strategy call, once we know whether the 90-day intensive is the right fit for you.
How does the free strategy call work?
It’s a phone call where we talk about where your picker is right now, whether we’re a good fit, and pricing. If it’s a fit, we’ll book your first session together on Zoom.
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching is not therapy or a substitute for mental health care. This work gives you tools to choose, protect yourself, and act on what you already know.
How much time does it take each week?
A weekly 1:1 call, with email and messaging support in between, plus short audio tracks from Unshakable Self-Trust that you can listen to whenever you like.
Who is it for?
Intelligent, self-aware women who are successful in many areas of life, and keep choosing partners who can’t meet them there. Single or dating, roughly 25–40.
What happens after the 90 days?
We don’t just stop. There’s a check-in call two weeks after our program ends, with ongoing check-ins to stay connected long term.
Ready to fix your picker?
Your free strategy call is a phone call. We’ll talk about where your picker is right now, whether we’re a good fit, and pricing.
If it’s a fit, we’ll book your first session together on Zoom.
Interested, but not ready to book?
Share your name and email to let me know you’re interested in working together. You’ll also get my free Find Your Growth Areas quiz.
Private 1:1 coaching opens soon, with limited spots. The list gets a private founding-client invitation — plus first access to my free Shield & Sword quiz to find your growth areas.