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Notes on the Picker, the Shield and the Sword.
Short essays on choosing well — written from the same method as the coaching.
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Why People Pleasers Attract the Wrong Men
Are you a people pleaser who keeps attracting the wrong men? Why accommodating women get picked by men who can’t meet them, and how to start choosing instead.
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Dating as an Empath: How to Stop Absorbing His Feelings
Dating as an empath can feel exhausting. Why empaths attract emotionally unavailable men, and how to stay open-hearted without losing yourself.
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Am I a People Pleaser? 10 Signs It’s Running Your Love Life
Wondering if you’re a people pleaser in relationships? 10 common signs, why it happens and small ways to start choosing yourself in dating.
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Codependency vs. Caring: Where’s the Line in a Relationship?
Is it love or codependency? How to tell healthy caring from over-functioning in a relationship, with signs to look for and small ways to rebalance.
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Start With the Lipstick: A Bottom-Up Way to Find Yourself Again
Too depleted for the big questions? Start small. A bottom-up way to find yourself again after a relationship, one act of self-investment at a time.
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Authenticity as the Sword: How to Stop People-Pleasing in Dating
Being easy to date isn’t the same as being chosen well. How authenticity cuts through people-pleasing and over-giving in relationships.
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What These 5 Areas of Your Life Say About Your Partner
Your partner reflects the gaps in your life. See what your Heart, Environment, Mind, Body and Beauty say about who you’re attracting.
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Why We Get Picked: Why Smart Women End Up With the Wrong Men
Why do successful women end up with men who can’t meet them? A nonjudgmental look at who picks you, and how to fix your picker.
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Left on Read Again? Go for the Walk. Then Build a Bigger World.
Left on read again? Go for the walk, then look deeper. Why one text has so much power over you, and how to build a life that makes it hurt less.
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